Acting with Love

"TODAY I DON'T FEEL LIKE DOIN ANYTHING" -B.MARS.

Wouldn't it be great if the world allows us to do whatever we like whenever we feel like it? Like, I don’t feel like waking up early for work, so I pick up my phone, call the office and say:


Me: “Hey boss, I don’t wanna work today cos I’m feeling lazy” 
And you’re boss is like
Boss: “Sure man, just go back when you feel like working again, you have an awesome day ok”


Cool right? If you can do whatever you feel like doing and the whole world would be ok with it. WOW.  All students would not go to school if that happens.


REALITY
BUT it’s not like that. We live in a world where you can’t always do what you feel like doing. We were created with hearts to feel and minds to think. Reality is, we should balance them both. It’s a world where we have CHOICE and that we don't have to rely on our feelings.

Try applying this "do whatever you feel" world in relationships.

  • SCENARIO#1: It's all a "Routine!"

You get home from work, and you feel tired. Your girlfriend is waiting for you to call, and you just tell her 

BF: “ I'm feeling tired today, I just wanna sleep, sorry."
GF: “WHAT? I waited for you!”
BF: "Sorry"
beeeeeeeep.

When everything is ROUTINE to you and you just don’t have that spark anymore, you stop being sweet and you don't exert that extra effort of calling her because the feeling of being crazy with one another is gone. “I don’t feel you anymore, I won’t love you anymore” 

Sounds familiar? YES. In relationships, the “do whatever you feel” world exists. 

Don't live in this world. That’s why it’s called a commitment. You commit to one another that you’ll love one another for better or worst. Not love one another WHENEVER YOU FEEL LIKE IT.


POINT #1: Don’t rely on what you feel. JUST DO IT.


Here's another scenario.

  • SCENARIO #2: Petty Arguments
You had an argument because of something petty, before things get worse, stop fighting even when you feel like nagging her, STOP NOW. Choose to understand her and act with love. TIGIL NA ANG PRIDE.


POINT#2:  Remember SELFISHNESS destroys relationships, HUMILITY develops relationships. 
HUMBLE yourself, and act with LOVE, NOW, GO.


  • SCENARIO #3: We're not growing
Do you feel like your relationship is not growing? Well what’re you waiting for? Get up and act with love! Save it now! Remember what you did on your first date? Or that romantic thing you did on your first anniversary? Do it again even when you don’t feel like it. I guarantee you; happiness would come your way. 

WHY? WHY? WHY?

Here’s why....

POINT #3: Acting with love is a CHOICE even if the feelings aren’t there.
LOVE IS A CHOICE --> CHOOSE TO LOVE --> LOVE IN ACTION.

GOD IS LOVE. When you act with love, you act with God. When you choose to act with love, whatever happens, God will supply the feeling.

How am I sure? Well, why don't you try that even when you’re tired and you just want to sleep when you get home, ACT WITH LOVE by picking up your phone and dial your "labidabs :))" Talk to her and affirm her with your love.

You may not feel like talking and you just want to sleep, but after that talk you’ll realize the extra action is just worth it. You may not feel like being sweet, but after you do, the feeling of happiness, joy and excitement will be with you again. God will provide. Just do your part and choose to act!



  • LASTLY,
Imagine you saying this to the person you love:


“I’m crazy about you. Even when we argue a lot, grow old and be fat and unattractive, I would still be crazy for you, because no matter what happens, I’ve chosen a lifestyle of fighting for you and loving you”

Acting with love is for everyone. To your family, friends, neighbors, and yourself. Choose to act. I know it’s impossible to act with love all the time but hey, with God, what is humanly impossible would be possible ☺


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